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A flat illustration of a server record holding three short lines beside a clock face, for an article on what a chat analyser records about your visit.

November 8, 2026 · Understanding yourself

What a chat analyser records about your visit

Flat vector illustration of a record card with a dotted arrow to an envelope and a key beside a small clock, for the article asking can someone else request my data.

November 8, 2026 · Understanding yourself

Can someone else request my data from a chat analyser?

A flat illustration of two chat bubbles trading short empty turns, beside the headline Phatic communication: the chat turns that say nothing.

November 8, 2026 · Understanding yourself

Phatic communication: the chat turns that say nothing

A flat illustration for Capitalization in relationships: replies to good news, showing a pale message bubble carrying an upward arrow above a dotted line and four reply bubbles, one of them filled in violet.

November 7, 2026 · Understanding yourself

Capitalization in relationships: replies to good news

An illustration for Portraitor vs Unpack My Chat: the rule behind a number, showing two chat bubbles from different senders with the gap between them marked off by a dashed measure, beside one rule sheet carrying written lines and one empty sheet drawn in a broken outline.

November 7, 2026 · Guides

Portraitor vs Unpack My Chat: the rule behind a number

The card for Perceived partner responsiveness, and what a chat log misses shows one filled message bubble, a lighter reply bubble below it, and an arrow curving from the reply into an empty broken outline where a rating would sit.

November 7, 2026 · Understanding yourself

Perceived partner responsiveness, and what a chat log misses

Illustration for Deixis: the words a chat export cannot resolve, showing two flat message bubbles with one word picked out in violet and a dotted line running from it to an empty dashed frame.

November 6, 2026 · Understanding yourself

Deixis: the words a chat export cannot resolve

Flat vector illustration showing an export file of text passing a dashed masking gate to become a portrait, while a framed picture of a chat is stopped at the same gate, under the headline Chat analyser for iMessage.

November 6, 2026 · Guides

Chat analyser for iMessage: what each one takes

Flat illustration of one chat export branching into two portrait frames whose rows differ, joined by a broken dotted line, for the article Will a chat analysis give the same result twice?

November 6, 2026 · Understanding yourself

Will a chat analysis give the same result twice?

Flat vector illustration of a zipped archive folder with a dotted arc curving up to three stacked file cards of JSON lines, for the guide How to request a copy of your Discord data.

November 5, 2026 · Guides

How to request a copy of your Discord data